Nothing compares to the satisfaction of being heard and deeply understood. Yet, few things happen as often as “misunderstandings”.

It goes like this. A team member calls you, concerned about meeting a client deadline. This reminds you of the time two weeks ago that the team missed the deadline of a major project milestone, almost jeopardizing the contract for the next phase of work. As you check your inbox for an important email you are expecting to receive, your response is already forming in your head. You cut them off before they’re done talking and tell them to prioritize the deadline above all else. Your team member hangs up dejected–they weren’t looking for the answer, they had a solution they wanted to share.

On the individual level, poor listening decreases engagement, commitment, and sense of purpose at work. For an organization, it can bury innovative ideas before they’re shared, and negate the effects of recruiting diverse teams by silencing perspectives. Listening is fundamental to creating an inclusive workplace–without it, an organization compromises the uniqueness and potential of all its employees.

While most of us want to be understood, we rarely try to improve our own listening abilities. We think we’re listening, but most of our mental bandwidth is taken up by crafting our next response. We’re missing key information, body language signals, and a chance to truly understand the problem and perspectives at hand. We need to learn to listen mindfully. The best part is–it doesn’t take additional time. Our days are already filled with meetings and other opportunities to really tune in.

4 steps to listen mindfully

1. Minimize distraction: Close your laptop, turn off your devices, and find a quiet place. Mindful listening starts by minimizing distractions so you can focus your attention on the conversation.

2. Stop talking: When we alleviate the pressure on ourselves to immediately respond to all issues, we create space to fully observe the speaker. You may not even notice how often you feel the urge to chime in. Experiment with withholding your response until the speaker has completely shared their opinion.

3. Ask clarifying questions: Before you move on to solutioning, deeply explore the topic by asking questions. This isn’t a chance to challenge every detail of the speaker, it’s an opportunity to encourage them to fully articulate their perspective.

4. Reflect on what would be of service: In that moment, what’s the single most helpful action you can take? Sometimes it’s a to-do, sometimes it’s tabling the conversation until a later time. Maybe they need to be connected to someone else. Maybe they just need to be heard.

It might help to think of mindful listening as a gift. When people come to us, we often assume they want answers or advice. The greatest gift we can give them is the space to speak and truly be heard.

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  • Jen Fisher

    Human Sustainability Leader at Deloitte and Editor-at-Large, Human Sustainability at Thrive Global

    Jen Fisher is a leading voice on the intersection of work, well-being, and purpose. Her mission is to help leaders move from the legacy mindset that well-being is solely the responsibility of the individual to the forward-thinking idea of human sustainability, which supports the long-term, collective well-being of individuals, organizations, climate, and society.  

    She’s the co-author of the bestselling, award-winning book, Work Better Together: How to Cultivate Strong Relationships to Maximize Well-Being and Boost Bottom Lines, the Human Sustainability Editor-at-Large for Thrive Global, and the host of the WorkWell podcast series.

    As the first chief well-being officer of a professional services organization, Jen built and led the creation and execution of a pioneering holistic and inclusive well-being strategy that has received recognition from leading business media brands and associations.

    Jen is a frequent writer on issues impacting the workplace today, including the importance of mental health and social connection to workforce resilience, happiness, and productivity. Her work has been featured in CNBC, CNN, Fast Company, Fortune, Inc, Stanford Social Innovation Review, and Harvard Business Review, among others.

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