Negative self-talk, inner-dialogue, doubts, insecurities – we all have these inner-voices who whisper to us just when we’re close to doing (and feeling) something really great – likey something new! In coaching we’re trained to think of this commentary as coming from a Sabateur. Like an internal character we need to recognise is actually trying to keep us safe. It would have sprung to life originally to keep us from danger, from taking risks, from a bitter relationship blow or similar – catastrophes. But then it moved in, along with its whispering at all the wrong moments. And awakens to be our harshest critic, giving outdated advice whenever we get close to making change happen. Regardless of whether that change gets us a result we’ve been striving for, is important, that we need to be happy. So expect this old frenemy. Name it. Hello Old Friend, Fear Of Failure! (Or Fear Of Success? Or Urmintrude! Or Bob!) Been expecting you! But now we’re through. Then take action anyway. Because you’ve tested your commitment to this choice … and won.
Helen Hanison, Executive Coach, Brighton, UK