Let me share a theory with you which I have developed over the years as a Life Coach. When I do life assessments with my clients at the beginning of the session, I ask them about the contentment percentage in all the areas of their life and find out if they are happy with this percentage. Sometimes they look a little puzzled because they realize that they are not at all 100% happy in any areas of their life.  Have you ever met anyone who is 100% percent content and happy? No, neither have I. So how high should the percentage be?

When you are on honeymoon after you have married the love of your life, you may momentarily be 100% happy but once the everyday routine of life sets in and you have to face unexpected challenges, this will change.

When you just landed your dream job after you have graduated cum laude from a top university your professional may be 100% perfect, again until routine sets in and there may be someone who you work with you drains your energy.

When you have moved into your new dream home, you may be 100% happy with your home life but once you get used to your new surroundings and the novelty wears off, this percentage will drop.

My theory is that, if we are over 70% happy in all areas of our life, we are on the right track. You may feel that this is a little low and of course, there is space for improvement. Attempting to be totally happy may actually stress and irritate us. Once we learn that happiness is within as, true contentment is a state of being and that our response to a situation defines how we feel and not the situation itself.

Once we start focusing on those areas which are going wonderfully well for us, then the other areas will become much easier to tackle. Once we realize that the secret to a happy life is not to get but to give and once we take full responsibility for all the results in our life, happiness will be a pleasant side effect.

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  • Elisabeth Villiger Toufexis

    Life Coach, NLP Practitioner, Author, Motivational Speaker

    I am the author of the book “The Soul Kit” and a Life Coach, NLP Practitioner and Motivational Speaker. My life purpose is to add value to people’s lives and brighten the path of those who are a little lost in the dark.  I am originally from Switzerland but live in Cyprus with my husband, and we have two grown up children. I speak 6 languages and also work as an interpreter. I found out very early in life that if we want to achieve something, we have to take action and not wait for someone else to do it for us. Life doesn't happen to us, we make it happen. I had a bit of a tough beginning, my mother was 16 years old when she gave birth to me and wanted to give me up for adoption, my grandfather insisted to take me home and I grew up with my grandparents but unfortunately when I was 10 years old, my grandfather died. I felt a lot of insecurity and shame and spent many years feeling quite lost and worth less than others but was determined to achieve something in my life. When I started understanding that we are in charge of our life and that it’s entirely up to us how we want to create it and that we must never allow our past to define our future, I started creating a wonderful life for myself. As a young woman, I worked as a tour guide in many different countries all over the world and learned about other cultures and mentalities, I learned that even though we may look different and speak different languages, we are all the same, with the same needs, wishes and dreams, and that we all have the need for safety and happiness. I have travelled to over a hundred countries, and I love to get to know people, appreciating similarities and respecting differences while bringing out the best in each other.