Law of Attraction: Why fighting against what you do not want draws in more negativity

Have you ever had an experience where something that you did not want to happen, happened? … I know, DUH! But hear me out.

Do you remember what you were thinking or saying to yourself before it did? Although this isn’t the case for every experience, in that particular instance did your self-talk go something like this?:

“I know that _________ is going to happen, I just know it’s going to… watch. It will, I just know it.”

And then, BAM! It happens…

If you can relate, let me just say that you are not alone. These “premonition-like” instances are often described by Law of Attraction practitioners as a “drawing in” of a particular event.

The Law of Attraction and how it works!

According to Law of Attraction, so many us subconsciously sabotage our own goodness by focusing on the things we don’t want or like about our life experiences. But if you have a sound understanding of the law, then you know that it does not discriminate against the things that you focus on.

This means that even when you are focused on something that you do not wish to happen, you can subconsciously be drawing it into your experience. Yes, YOU could be attracting the very things that you resist. And what you resist, persist.

When you push against something that you do not like, that very action isn’t what’s going to make it go away. In fact, Law of Attractions says that doing this will only amplify more of what you don’t want.

If you focus upon whatever you want, you will attract whatever you want. If you focus upon the lack of what you want, you will attract more of the lack.- Abraham Hicks

The Law of Attraction also works in the same way as the law of gravity and motion combined.

Example: If you shoot a bullet an impenetrable object, when it hits the object it can bounce off and hit something else with the same force. Or if you toss something up in the air with strong force, it can build that same momentum as it comes back down.

Likewise, Law of Attraction says that what you focus your attention on most (in terms of intense emotion and energy), you get back in the form of more experiences that will match that same frequency or feeling.

If you want to create change in your life, in your relationships, and in the world, you must focus all of your attention on what you want. DO NOT entertain what you do not want. The Law of Attraction is unbiased, and you will attract people and experiences based on the thoughts that you allow yourself to focus on most. — Brittnay C. Starks

Here’s why your feelings matter

According to Abraham & Esther Hicks, world-renowned teachers of Law of Attraction, the way that you feel is a HUGE DEAL! Your feelings matter because they serve as your internal compass, letting you know what your point of attraction is at any given moment.

When you feel bad, you are emitting a particular energy that can only come back to you in the same way that it left; leaving you with more things to feel bad about. When you feel good, the same thing happens. That good feeling energy is returned to you, just as you sent it out into the world, bringing in more things to feel good about.

But the beauty of it all is that you can always shift your point of attraction by shifting your focus to something that makes you feel better no matter what is going on around you.

A good place to start would be to think about your #MCM or #WCW. Or even better, think about what it would feel like to experience the things that you truly desire. The excitement that you would feel from this space is exactly the kind of energy that draws more positive experiences.

Whatever it takes, do it, and do it often! When you’re looking to make positive changes, you can’t count on a positive outcome if your attention is always stuck on how bad things are.

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Originally published at on December 7, 2016.

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