If your divorce is finished, you might be kicking yourself.
I know I was.
Back in 2011, my year-long divorce was finalized, but I wasn’t jumping up and down and doing cartwheels.
I felt stuck.
Sure, I was going to therapy and had good friends, but I was still struggling.
I was putting myself first, slowly learning how to manage my money better (definitely a shock when I no longer had my husband’s income, or our fancy lifestyle anymore), but I didn’t feel like Hollywood told me I should feel.
I didn’t feel like the liberated divorced woman who could run off to India and go “find herself.”
I didn’t have a meet-cute with a handsome stranger who then swept me off my feet and healed my heart.
So I felt like I was doing everything right, but it was sooooooo hard.
Years later, when I became a divorce coach, I realized why I really struggled during those years.
Growth is hard.
Really f*cking hard.
And it’s supposed to be.
Think about it. Have you ever seen those time-elapsed nature videos when a cocoon is formed, and then takes forever to break out into a butterfly?
I’ve never been a little butterfly larvae, but I can’t imagine it being easy breaking out of that hardened silk cocoon thingy.
But the process is worth it. Have you seen a gorgeous butterfly?
You’re the butterfly, baby!
But yeah, I won’t sugarcoat it–divorce recovery is hard.
You’re analyzing the shit that went wrong in the marriage, and that’s incredibly painful.
You may be dealing with an ex who’s turned into a jerk, but your heart is still hurting because you’re thinking of all the good times you had together.
You may be angry as hell because you’re *finally* realizing all the wrong that has been done to you, and you’re trying to deal with that.
But the fact that you’re having those feelings means you’re actually growing. Because you’re now looking back on the painful stuff, seeing what lessons you can learn from it.
So you can heal.
So you can move on.
So you can actually feel fulfilled and look forward to the future.
All that stuff is going to be hard.
But it’s a sign you’re getting stronger.
Next week, we’re going to talk a little bit about divorce anger-and I’ll send you home with a step-by-step plan to proactively work through it.
So check your inbox, boo! 🙂
And remember–if you’re feeling stuck after your divorce and need extra help, holler at me! I’m a divorce recovery coach who helps women just like you overcome their divorce pain and break free from the patterns keeping them stuck.
Do you want to feel fulfilled instead of confused and stuck?
Do you want to actually start having fun again, instead of another weekend alone?
Do you want to fearlessly look forward to the future, instead of dreading it?
Then book your free discovery call now. I have some ideas that can get you feeling better, faster.
PS–Worried that it’s going to take *years* to recover from the divorce trauma? Afraid of the future instead of being excited for it? Book your Divorce Transformation Call today and learn how you can recover faster.