I began consciously saying “thank you” when I was in my late twenties.

I became aware that whenever I felt down, sad, or angry about something (especially angry), I could feel the anger manifesting in my chest and stomach.

So I mentally said a prayer of thanks in an attempt to change my demeanor, and after a minute of concentrating on something I was grateful for, I very quickly noticed the physical changes in my body. Even though the initial problem still remained, I felt calmer and better equipped to deal with it.

Fast-forward fifteen years and I am married with two young sons. Every day I mentally say (pray) “thank you” for the things in my life, such as my health, my family, love, a home, a job, and everything else that I take for granted like legs that work, eyes that see, and ears that hear. It has become as important as meditation, exercise, or a cup of green tea. I simply feel better after doing it.

One night when he was four, my eldest son asked me what praying was and what I prayed about. I explained that saying “thank you” to God or the universe (or whatever he wanted to call it) was very important. So we started off slow: “Thank you for Mommy and Daddy.”

A few months later, he had his first vivid nightmare. In his half-sleep state, he couldn’t get out of the terror of his dream and kept falling back into it. Realizing that he could not change his emotion by himself, I suggested that we say our thank-yous. We said “thank you” for the family, for our dog, for his scooter, for chocolate chip cookies, for warm days in the garden, for swimming in the sea, for his legs so he could run fast. . . . After two minutes he was asleep and stayed that way for the rest of the night.

In the beginning, the boys struggled to think of more than five things each to be thankful for. Gradually it became easier, and one day, after one of our thank-you sessions, I decided to write down what they were thankful for, in their own words. My hope being that it would help other children open themselves up to the wonderful tool of just saying “thank you.”

This excerpt is from THANK YOU FOR MY DREAMS, Bedtime Prayers of Gratitude.

Published with permission by Alexi Lubomirski.

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  • HSH Prince Alexi Lubomirski

    Official Royal Photographer, Global Ambassador for Concern Worldwide

    Concern Worldwide

    Apart from being primarily a husband and a father, Alexi Lubomirski is a world- renowned fashion photographer who has worked for several magazines, such as Vogue and Harper’s Bazaar. Among other things, Lubomirski shot the official engagement and wedding portraits for HRH Prince Harry and Ms. Meghan Markle.

    In 2014, he published Princely Advice for a Happy Life, a book written for his two young sons, on the virtues of behaving in a manner befitting a prince in the twenty first century.

    Lubomirski is also a global ambassador for the humanitarian charity Concern Worldwide, to which he donates all of his book’s proceeds.

    Concern Worldwide is a nongovernmental, international, humanitarian organization dedicated to the reduction of suffering and working toward the ultimate elimination of extreme poverty in the world’s poorest countries.

    Since its foundation in 1968, Concern Worldwide—through its work in emergencies and long-term development—has saved countless lives, relieved suffering, and provided opportunities for a better standard of living for millions of people. It works primarily in the countries ranked in the bottom 40 of the United Nations’ Human Development Report. Concern Worldwide implements emergency response programs as well as long-term development programs in the areas of livelihoods, health, HIV/AIDS, and education.