As the classic saying goes, work on yourself first and love yourself before anyone else can love you or appreciate you for the person you are. There must be the desire within you, to know, understand and change yourself, so that you can leave this world confident that you have done your best. One of my favorite quotes has an unknown source but Mahatma Gandhi and Ralph Emerson are famous for saying this: “Your thoughts become your words. Your words become your actions. Your actions become your habits. Your habits become your character. Your character becomes your destiny.”

If you read my previous articles, you now know why it is important to master your mind. You must control your thoughts, or they will wreak havoc in your life. If you believe you have no control over your life, you are wrong. You have control over what you think, feel and do. Your mind is a magnet, attracting everything you think, effectively creating everything in your reality. In other words, you are what you think, and what you think about you bring about.  Every thought, positive or negative, has a vibration that attracts situations or people with the same vibration. It is a universal law that two drops of water will merge, but a drop of water and a drop of oil will repel each other.

You must make your mind strong so that your negative thoughts don’t rule you. Practice meditation, yoga, read good books, keep good company, eat good quality food, get enough sleep- all these things will help you. 

Problems come in everyone’s life; it’s how you handle them that makes you strong.  Failure is all about perception. It is a test of your strength, will power, belief and faith. Thomas Edison once said: “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that don’t work.”  It took him years to find the right formula.  When difficult times come, as they do in all our lives, watch how you handle them. Learn to accept that not everything happens the way you want it to, to forgive yourself and others for mistakes, and ask for support from those who care about you. 

Consciously think positive thoughts. At the end of every day spend time with yourself and think of five things in your day that you have gratitude for – anything, like a beautiful sunset, the sound of laughter. Your brain will, over time, automatically rewire itself to find the positive. Following these tips will pay off in dividends, being the best investment you will ever make.