During my sabbatical in 2014, I was conversations with a wise person on how to deal with tough circumstances.And this was the wisdom that my friend shared with me.
1-You are not the DOER , consider yourself as an instrument . You are not bearer of the consequences too.
2-You cannot change everything or anyone, it’s upto them to incorporate change.
3-Whatever your soul has destined for your journey it will happen – even your choice , your free will is also destined.
4-Accept what you cannot change.Have no guilt, it’s not your fault.
5-Try to be aware & conscious of your internal processes and triggers at all times.
6-Show compassion to old people.The same will be done unto you.