That voice in your head isn’t the truth—it’s just familiar.
We all have that voice. The one that says:
You’re not ready yet. Who do you think you are? You should be further along by now. Don’t mess it up.
It’s the voice that questions your decisions, undercuts your confidence, and makes you shrink—right when you were about to rise.
That voice is your inner critic. And while it might sound like it’s protecting you, most of the time, it’s just holding you back.
The inner critic is not your intuition
It’s important to name this: your inner critic is not your intuition. Intuition speaks with calm clarity. It might guide you away from something, but it doesn’t shame you. It doesn’t belittle you.
Your inner critic, on the other hand, is fueled by fear, perfectionism, and old programming. It’s trying to keep you small in the name of staying safe.
And the more you grow, the louder it can get—especially when you’re stepping into something new.
You can’t eliminate the voice—but you can stop letting it lead
The goal isn’t to silence your inner critic forever. The goal is to stop believing it. To create enough space between the voice and your truth that you get to choose who’s in charge.
Here are three tools to help you shift the narrative:
1. Name the voice
Understand your inner critic archetype, as I write about in Women Rising. Is it the “perfectionist”? The “people pleaser”? The “overachiever”?
When you name it, you separate from it. You realise it’s a voice, not your voice.
Try saying: “Thanks for your input, [insert name], but I’ve got this.”
2. Gather the evidence
The inner critic deals in extremes and assumptions.
Challenge it by asking:
- Is this really true?
- What’s the actual evidence?
- What would I say to a friend who was thinking this about herself?
You’ll often find that your critic has a lot of opinions—but very little proof.
3. Anchor into your inner leader
One of the most powerful ways to quiet the critic is to strengthen another voice: your inner leader. This voice is grounded, wise, compassionate, clear. It’s the part of you that knows your values, trusts your experience, and can see the bigger picture.
When the critic says “You’re not ready,” the inner leader says, “You’ve done the work. You’re allowed to grow.” The more you practice listening to her, the more your confidence becomes embodied—not performative.
You don’t have to get rid of your inner critic to move forward. You just have to stop giving it the final say. You are not the voice that doubts. You are the one who notices it—and chooses differently.
And every time you do, you reclaim your power.