Mental health is everything. Here’s how to protect it this year.

Few of us would argue that mental health should be low on our priority list. In theory, we know it matters—but then reality takes over.

Deadlines dominate. We’re too tired. The kids get sick. We get lost in the vortex of our screens.

Even in an era being called the “Age of Anxiety” and a “mental health crisis,” many of us struggle to place mental health on our never-ending lists, never mind keeping it at the top. Then the wake-up calls come.

The American Psychological Association reports that we often do not recognize our vulnerabilities to stress and mental health issues until we start to show up with physical health symptoms. This lines up with the World Health Organization’s grim report that by 2030, stress-related illness will surpass communicable disease.

While we cannot necessarily control the pressures of our modern demands or altogether skirt the inevitable sufferings of life, there are a wide range of activities backed by science that we can intentionally use to protect and elevate our mental health:

1. Try therapy. Having a trusted, licensed therapist with expertise in evidence-based modalities, such as cognitive behavioral treatment, is worth its weight in gold. You can find a therapist who fits your distinctive needs through your primary care physician, health insurance company, Employee Assistance Program (EAP), word of mouth, and referrals from reputable organizations such as the American Psychological Association, or the National Association of Social Workers.

2. Find community. Isolation can quickly erode mental health. Loneliness is being called “the new smoking”—the health risk of our modern life, where we are more connected and disconnected than ever before. Relationships provide critical protection against loneliness and foster a sense of belonging that we are wired for. Finding people you can safely and openly share with can help curb self-doubt and provide needed support to navigate the joys and complexities of life.

3. Set boundaries. You can’t say yes to everything and still have the time to make mental health a priority. Decide what’s most important, then make the decision to delegate, renegotiate, or change your responsibilities. Mental health can quickly erode in the face of too many yeses.

4. Engage in mindful living. Mindfulness activities, such as meditation, deep breathing, and yoga, have all been linked to elevated brain chemistry and lower levels of cortisol. Research shows that when we work to stay in the present moment and avoid the mindless trappings of overwork, “infobesity” (technology and news overload), being stuck ruminating over the past or locked in anticipatory anxiety over the future, we are more likely to thrive.

5. Break up with perfectionism. Research shows that perfectionism can quickly spiral into strivings that become unhealthy. While pursuing rigorous goals can be healthy and lead to positive outcomes, expecting perfection and sustaining an inhumane schedule in the long haul can leave us at greater risk for mental health distress.

6. Take daily break rituals. Carve out small chunks of time where you are focused on doing something that renews your mind, body, and soul. It can be singing in the car, brisk walks, deep breathing—anything that provides you respite and momentum along the way.

7. Practice self-care. Prevention is less costly than repair. Research shows that taking the time to uphold lifestyle medicine principles, such as proper sleep, nutrition, and exercise, can provide the kind of lift that helps us regenerate.

8. Find your fun and funny. Humor is cited as a significant protective factor that contributes towards resilience. When we take life too seriously, we can become cynical, jaded, and hypercritical. Taking time to be playful and silly can help break tensions that can have a negative cumulative effect on our well-being.

9. Avoid consumerism. The promise of retail therapy, being cool, or having status can lure us into spending money on stuff we don’t need. Research shows that when we move away from the “goods life” to the “good life”—one that focuses on spending our time and money on lasting things, like relationships and legacy, we will be more inclined to flourish and thrive.

Your mental health is everything. It’s more important than your grades, your job, your status, likes on your feed, and any other metrics of success. As the World Health Organization asserts, there is no health without it. How will you protect yours?

References

Lee, K (2018). Mentalligence: A New Psychology of Thinking: Learn what it takes to be more agile, mindful and connected in today’s world. HCI Books: Deerfield Beach.

Author(s)

  • Dr. Kris

    Behavioral Science Expert. Psychotherapist Comedian. Global Citizen.

    Northeastern University

    Dr. Kristen Lee, Ed.D., LICSW, known as “Dr. Kris”, is an internationally recognized, award-winning behavioral science clinician, researcher, educator, speaker, and comedian from Boston, Massachusetts. As the Lead Faculty for Behavioral Science and Faculty-in-Residence at Northeastern University, Dr. Kris’s research and teaching interests include individual and organizational well-being and resilience, particularly for marginalized and underserved populations.  Dr. Kris works with organizations and leaders around the world on how to use the science of behavioral change and human potential to build healthy mental health cultures that help prevent burnout and promote organizational and human sustainability.  She is the author of RESET: Make the Most of Your Stress, winner of the Next Generation Indie Book Awards Motivational Book of 2015, best-selling Mentalligence: A New Psychology of Thinking-Learn What it Takes to be More Agile, Mindful and Connected in Today’s World and Worth the Risk: Learn to Microdose Bravery to Grow Resilience, Connect More, and Offer Yourself to the World, a 2022 The Next Big Idea Book Club nominee. She is the host of Crackin’ Up: Where Therapy Meets Comedy and is a regular contributor to Psychology Today and Thrive Global. Dr. Kris’s work has been featured at Harvard and on NPR, Fast Company, Forbes, and CBS radio. Her TedX talk, The Risk You Must Take is featured on Ted. In her spare time, she can be found out on the running trails, attempting tricky yoga poses, eating peanut butter cups and drinking kale juice—but not all at once. Connect with her at www.kristenlee.com or @TheRealDrKris (Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat).