Everyone nowadays posts either on Twitter or Facebook that they like positive vibes, how leading a great life filled with positive energy will bring success and happiness. I encounter people daily who say that they are all about this new era of what “The Secret” and other inspiring book have taught us.

But when it comes to walking the walk, they come back astonished that things do not go their way that they are tired of the negative, they don’t want failure, they don’t want more of the same.
It took me 6 whole months to re-train my brain and my thoughts. It is very easy to say these things, to quote books and to like the whole idea, but it is not the same to actually focus and make things happen to you. This is what I call confusion. There is no magic potion that will solve anyone’s problems or make anyone’s dreams reality. You have to work for it.
Train your thoughts to “speak a new language”. Forget words like “I don’t want”, “I don’t like”, “I hate this”, in other words, forget any sentence that starts with a negative.
Instead try re-learning a brain grammar that always starts with: “I want”, “I like”, “I love”.
This is the first step. In the beginning it will seem like an enormous task, but as time goes on, it will come automatic. Remember that “What you think about, you bring about” and that the universe does not speak in human grammar terms. If you keep saying “I don’t want to be broke”, guess what? You’ll be broke because you focus on that sentiment.

I speak from my own experience. As soon as I truthfully let everything go, as soon as I completely relaxed my thoughts, things started happening so fast that at first I thought that it was a fluke. No, it was no fluke. It was actually happening. Thoughts like “struggle”, “can barely make it”, “I am tired”, “I don’t know what I want”, “I don’t know how to solve this or the other problem” were left behind and now, I cringe simply writing them.
I started thinking: “easy”, “have plenty of what I want”, “I have abundance all around me”.
I wake up every day thanking the universe for everything that I have, and everything that I am. I walk smiling, I say hello to people that cross my path and I see their reactions. They pause for a second and then they actually smile and return the greeting.

My business is flourishing, I feel healthy, happy and fulfilled.
A trick I personally used was a mental list of wants and needs. You will be amazed at how small the list of needs is when you are honest and truthful. Another thing is giving back to your community, to your friends, to your significant other. This thought frightens a lot of people when they come from a needy point of view. You don’t have to give money; you can simply help a friend, make a meal for someone you care about, call friends and family, and send a nice thank you note. Little things go a long way.

If it is your business that you are struggling with, sit back, relax and see yourself as successful. Don’t laugh! It really works. See obstacles like life’s traffic lights. The universe always guides us if we are willing to give it an honest try and listen.

So, open your hearts and minds, do not criticize others, absorb what is going on around you and be thankful. Be really thankful every single day. Live in the moment and make it count!

Author(s)

  • Mariella Stockmal

    Operations & Risk Management Executive

    I combine many years of experience and strategy to create results across various functions from eCommerce, Finance, Operations, and Risk. Skills and Experience: * Operations & Office Management * Finance, Fraud Management and Safety Measures creation to protect brands and companies. * Claims, Disputes and Chargebacks (Vantiv, Braintree, Ethoca, PayPal, Shopify, Global Collect, Adyen etc.) * QuickBooks and Bookkeeping * Policy Creation specific to an organization’s goals * Ability to solve problems * Desire to learn new things * Passion and adaptability * Slack, Zoom, G-Suite, and other office/business software * Accustomed to handling sensitive, confidential records. * Diplomatic and tactful with professionals and non-professionals at all levels * Word, Excel, Google Drive, Social Media * Fully equipped home office for remote work assignments * Languages: Greek, German, English, conversational French and Italian Job History: Owner at Business And Risk Management Jan 2018 – Current Blog about Business, Risk, Finance and Fraud Protection. Risk Manager, TrackR September 2015, January 2018 Protected the company from fraud and unauthorized transactions. Brought chargeback rate down from 17% to 0.3%. Also worked with QuickBooks online doing reconciliations and entering data. Chargebacks – Claims Manager, FastSpring December 2011 – September 2015, Santa Barbara, CA Worked closely with co-founders, managed Fraud and Chargebacks, and worked with QuickBooks. Created policies, updated back end to portray proper sales/refunds. COO, SteveStockmalMusic.com Music Education - Music Performance Risk Management and Policy Creation, Financial management. Operations Manager at Santa Barbara International Film Festival Office Operations Management, policy implementation. COO, D. Kallonas & Son. Ltd. Policy creation, overall Company operations, international travel and finance