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Mary Lamia, Ph.D.
Mary Lamia, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist, psychoanalyst, and professor in the San Francisco Bay Area. She is the author of
Grief Isn't Something to Get Over: Finding a Home for Memories and Emotions After Losing a Loved One
What Motivates Getting Things Done: Procrastination, Emotions, and Success
Understanding Myself: A Kid’s Guide to Intense Emotions and Strong Feelings
Emotions! Making Sense of Your Feelings
; and co-authored
The Upside of Shame: Therapeutic Interventions Using the Positive Aspects of a 'Negative' Emotion
he White Knight Syndrome: Rescuing Yourself from Your Need to Rescue Others
. Her website is
Mary Lamia, Ph.D.
Grieving Changes, Endings, and Unfulfilled Goals
Sensory Memories: Reminders of Love and Loss
Grief Isn’t Something to Get Over
What Anxiety May Conceal
Preserving Closeness While Social Distancing
Understanding Procrastinating Kids
We Assume Narcissists Lack Empathy, but Something Else May Be Going On
Heartbreak: Do Men Hurt as Much as Women?
Why We Make Excuses
Should We Tell Our Secrets?
The Pain of Loss is Fueled By the Ghost of the Good Stuff
Are You Behaving Like Your Mother (or Father)? Don’t Worry!
Regret Is Complicated
The Downside of Success
Can Procrastinators Live Peacefully with Non-Procrastinators?
Tax Season and the Misguided Tendency to Stigmatize Procrastinators
Why Time-Outs Need a Time Out
When Smartphones Hurt
Untangling the Stigma Surrounding Psychotherapy
Unwanted Emotional Memories
The Characteristics of Successful People – Including Those Who Procrastinate
The Many Faces of Everyday Anxiety