I hate my job. This whole 9-5 thing does not vibe with me. My coworkers are annoyingly without common sense. In fact, nobody knows how to do their job except for me. And my boss…ugh, such a micromanager. Why can’t she just trust me? After all, I’m the most competent employee she’s got around here despite never being given a raise in five years.
I hate my life. My husband doesn’t even help around the house. He’d rather spend time with Dori on the couch (short for Doritos). My kids won’t listen to me. I’m so tired and this fudge pudge around my belly is getting pudgier by the minute…goodness gracious.
Maybe I ought to quit my job. There’s a position that just opened across the street. Oooh, maybe the pasture is greener on the other side. Wait…same schedule. Same pay. Possibly…the same BS. But it’s ok. They can’t be worse than the people at work today. And where on Earth are all these cars coming from? I’m just trying to go home. Do these people seriously not know how to drive (*honks then flips finger trying so hard to look like a murderer to scare the other driver but failing miserably)?
How many times have you heard this rant from a friend? Or better yet, how many times have you heard the same rant from yourself…this morning?
Well you’re not alone sister. We all have our moments like this. Sometimes it comes and goes. Sometimes it lingers way longer than we want them to be. Finding balance between our health, relationship, finances, career, and spiritual calling is almost next to impossible. Unfortunately, most of us find ourselves stuck in a limbo of wanting to do something else other than what we are doing now. There’s nothing wrong with that except for the fact that, oftentimes, we end up staying stuck and use the same excuse as to why our life is not better years later.
The truth is, every symptom has a positive intention. And that applies to every area of our life, not just our health. Feeling stuck is a symptom- it’s our own inner being telling us something’s gotta give. Something is not in alignment with who we are and we need to do something about it- sooner rather than later.
When we are stuck in a rut is when we start asking ourselves eloquent questions such as- what the hell is going on with me? Therefore, it might just be the best thing that ever happened to us. As cliché as it seems, when we are literally lost is when we find ourselves.
When you’re down at the bottom of the pit, slowly sinking in mud, or even unable to escape the rat race, suddenly breakthrough happens.
Get out of your comfort zone. Do something that you’ve never done before. Do something that people around you wouldn’t even expect you to do. Stop being good (or bad). Stop following the rules 80% of the time. Bend the crap out of those rules instead or follow them only 57% of the time. How dare those rules put all that feisty, smart and deliciousness that is you in a box! Besides, being good or bad is only a perception of people trying to make sense of your life choices.
You must be uncomfortable to want that change because guess what? Being comfortable will never push you to do better. And trust me when I say that once you decide to make a change in your life, that’s when everything shifts and becomes twice, even three times tougher…until it settles in and becomes your new normal. My girl, you have got to be ready because it’s going to be painful. It’s going to be messy (and then some). Yes, I’ve been there. It’s going to be rough. Friends and family will not quite understand and that’s ok. How much discomfort you are willing to take is directly proportional to the change you want to make. But when you finally figured out what you want in life, what you will accept for the hell of it and what you won’t tolerate for the life of it, that’s when everything gets temporarily messy as they shift but eventually… start feeling oh-so-damn good.
Trust me. Things will shift and you will never be the same again. So, go ahead and savor these moments of being stuck in a rut, tired as a monkey, sick as a dog, feeling like crap, or however else you like to describe your state of exhaustion. It may just be what you needed before you finally tell yourself “It’s time to do me”.