Empower Yourself by Learning How to Make Better Choices in Your Life

Roughly 4 in 5 women lack confidence. That is a startling number, especially since it can be avoided.

If you don’t have the right amount of self-esteem, you won’t be able to make better choices in your life. You’ll continue to make the same mistakes over and over. That’s simply a road to failure. 

You need to learn how to empower yourself to create your dream lifestyle. Do you think high-value women are always making poor choices? No, of course, they’re not!

Here are some tips to help you down the road of making better choices to enhance your self-esteem!

Decide What You Want in Life

Did you dream of being a high school teacher when you were a kid? If you made it, all power to you! 

If your life didn’t go quite as planned, that’s fine as well. Since only 6 percent of people achieve their childhood dreams, you’re in good company. 

However, it’s still important to decide on some goals. If you know the general direction you’re heading, then you’re going to stand a better chance of improving your choices.

You may decide that your goal is to own your home before everything else, including missing out on vacations. At the same time, you might decide that you want to prioritize your studies at school ahead of your relationships. 

If the choice with which you’re faced isn’t going to put you closer to accomplishing your life goals, then change course. 

Learn from Other People

Scientific studies have discovered that we don’t ask for advice from other people enough. You should make the most of other people’s experiences, knowledge, and wisdom.

Remember to choose who to ask advice from wisely. You don’t want to ask your girlfriend who has never even been on a date for some guidance on your relationship.

At the same time, take advantage of other people’s perspectives, but not without a critical eye. You’re the one who has to make the decision and live with it, nobody else.

Take Time to Reflect

If you want to make better choices, you might need to think about things a little more. 

You can spend time drawing up mind maps for your decisions. They can help you to eliminate some of your options from a long list to just a few. 

It’s also worth knowing that people who spend time writing, talking, and thinking about triumphs and defeats in life are happier overall

Go with Your Instincts

If you don’t trust your instincts, you’re going to repeatedly make poor choices in life. You have to have the confidence to make decisions and stick with them.

In studies in which participants were asked to make decisions on instinct alone, they made the right choice up to 90 percent of the time.

Therefore, it can be said that our guts are not a bad indicator of the right choice. Of course, it’s always helpful to reflect and consider your choices carefully.

However, you should avoid going too far. Over-thinking things can lead to even worse results than if you just made a choice on the spot.

Healthy Mindset

When you’re stressed out, you make bad decisions and do stupid things. If you want to make better choices, then you need to make sure you’re of a healthy mindset.

How do you keep a healthy mind?

There are numerous factors which can determine whether you maintain a healthy mind. These include everything from regular physical activity and mindful meditation to eating a balanced diet and spending time with friends. 

If you find yourself in a poor state of mind, then delay any important life choices for another day. You don’t want to dump your boyfriend after a bad day at work or quit your job because you’ve had a bout of depression. 

Trust in Yourself

Part of making better choices in your life is as simple as trusting yourself. Remember that you’re the kind of gal who makes great decisions for you. 

Stop delegating the big choice about your life to your parents or friends. You’re the one who needs the confidence to make choices.

Do you get overwhelmed by the menu at restaurants? Tell yourself that you’re the type of woman who always chooses the best dish without error.

People who display confidence also have better relationships with others as well. So, enjoy those second-looks with your new-found confidence.  

Don’t Stop Making Choices

Did you know that around 99 percent of people make the same 7 common life mistakes in their youth?

That’s ok, you’re supposed to mess up when you’re in your twenties. That’s what those years are all about.

However, don’t let it dissuade you from making tough choices. As you grow up and get older, you’ll get better at making choices simply by doing it.

Just as with surfing or speaking French, you get better the more you do. Just practice to perfection!

Focus on What You Can Control

Only 40 percent of happiness is in our control. The rest is out of our hands. It’s merely down to genetics, luck, and our environment.

There is plenty of room to maneuver, and yet people spend a lot of their lives worrying about things that are out of our control.

Are you scared of economic collapse? Worried about terrorism?

People are scared of a bunch of things that are out their hands. It’s important to concentrate your energy on what you can actually influence. 

This will focus your mind on the decisions you’ve got to make in the here and now.

Want to Learn More About How to Make Better Choices?

Do you want to become a high-value woman? If that’s the case, then you can’t accept making mistakes all the time.

You’ve got to learn how to empower yourself to make better choices about your life. After reading this blog post, you’ve now got the tools you need to improve your decisions and take steps towards achieving your dreams. 

Do you want to learn from the success stories of women learning how to empower themselves? Discover more here


  • Giordana Toccaceli

    International Dating, Relationship and Intimacy Expert

    Giordana Toccaceli is an International Dating, Relationship and Intimacy Expert having worked with thousands of women and men around the world to become their most attractive and magnetic selves and attract incredible partners into their lives in record time. Giordana has worked with a wide range of clients from Top CEOs, successful entrepreneurs, professional athletes, actors, models and every day men and women. She is a regular contributor to Univision TV's morning show "Despierta Austin" and the Founder of Woman's Allure and the Co-Founder of Embody Love Project.