…with the unexpected help of another

I get by with a little help from my friends.”–The Beatles

Nothing prepared me for feeling total terror upon crossing a wooden bridge 30 feet in the air as part of a hiking adventure.

I had not experienced fear of heights before in earlier years when, as a skier, I sat in chairlifts several feet in the air.

This bridge looming before me felt even scarier because it also rocked side to side as 12 of us crossed to the other side. I kept telling myself, “If I fall over, it’s only water, what’s the big deal?” Still, my nerves were so rattled I thought for sure I was going to faint.

Knowing my fellow hikers and I had to cross that bridge again on the return trip back to our cars, I told the group of my angst instead of feigning courage like I may have in the past.

One kind gentleman suggested I walk across the bridge by myself, which would help make it less wobbly than having the whole group of us on it at the same time.

Even though facing one’s fear is always an internally solo journey, the thought of being alone on that swaying bridge felt even more terrifying. Intuiting my concerns, the same man then offered to walk a few feet behind me as we crossed. “There is safety in numbers, just not too many of them for this adventure,” I thought to myself.

At the beginning, very slowly pacing himself a couple steps behind me as we crossed, he said, “You can do this.” A few gentle steps later, he added, “You’re doing great. Hold onto the rails and keep looking forward.”

When we reached the other side, in a few short minutes that felt like hours, he put his arm around me, and congratulated me for moving through my fear.

Looking back a few days later at the kindness of this stranger, I knew expressing my vulnerability, and learning to accept help, forever changed me.

The stoicism I publicly showed before during other courageous times in my life—from moving cross-country to confronting cancer head-on in a revolutionary way—kept me feeling more isolated in my growth.

Fear is a normal part of life, particularly if we choose to honor our soul’s promptings to expand, whether it is in trying a new activity or embracing an elevated way of being in the world.

To lean in, hear and accept the generous offer of support from another instead of push it away, has opened my heart in new ways and further helped discern the types of people I want in my circle.

There is a new balance for me now between moving forward and pausing to be comforted, nurtured or championed as I take the next steps.

Onward, upward…and across,



  • Gail Kauranen Jones

    Transformational leader, intuitive coach, gifted wordsmith/author and inspiring teacher; owner of ClaimYourWorthiness.com

    “Declare your innate worthiness and keep loving yourself into the highest vision of your dreams." --Gail Kauranen Jones   Gail Kauranen Jones is an intuitive coach, gifted wordsmith and inspiring teacher who has been leading others through transformation for more than twenty years. She is the author of two books, Cancer as a Love Story: Developing the Mindset for Living,) and To Hell and Back...Healing Your Way through Transition. Both books were met with rave reviews on Amazon and elsewhere.   She has taught many leading-edge workshops at top spas and wellness centers, and continues to lead guided meditation circles. Gail lives a passionate and simple life writing, hiking, connecting in meaningful ways, aligning in joyful collaboration and thriving in nature.   Following her pioneering spirit, Gail is honoring "a calling" to help others release internal stressors by integrating a greater sense of love and worthiness. She has a new e-book about her unique process in the works.  To learn more, visit www.claimyourworthiness.com.   To order a signed copy of either of her current books, email: [email protected].