“The moment you ask yourself, ‘What do I know to be true right now?’ you step out of fear and into your power. That’s where real transformation begins.”
– Sagar Constantin
In a world that feels increasingly uncertain, it’s easy to become overwhelmed by anxiety, fear, and the constant noise of our own thoughts. That’s why conversations like this one with international speaker and bestselling author Sagar Constantin are so vital. With her deep-rooted experience in mindset work, emotional awareness, and personal growth, Sagar helps people not only understand the power of being present but also teaches them how to actually live in that presence. As someone who transitioned from the fast-paced world of TV sports in Denmark to a global platform for personal transformation, Sagar brings both warmth and wisdom to the table—grounded in lived experience.
In this empowering interview, Sagar sits down with Stacey Chillemi to share actionable tools for embracing uncertainty, quieting the mind, and becoming your own inner anchor in chaotic times. From her insightful question “What do I know to be true right now?” to her profound guidance on letting go of control, Sagar walks us through a powerful roadmap for inner stability and personal freedom. Whether you’re a parent lying awake at night with worry, an entrepreneur navigating change, or simply someone who wants to stop overthinking, Sagar’s message will resonate deeply and offer the clarity you didn’t know you needed.
Thank you so much for joining us, Sagar! Our readers would love to get to know you a bit better. Can you tell us a bit about your backstory?
Thank you so much, Stacey! I’m truly honored to be here. My journey began in Denmark, where I worked in the TV sports industry for many years. I loved the energy, the fast pace—but deep down, something was missing. I had this intense desire to work with people on a more profound level. That led me to personal development, and over the years, I’ve dedicated my life to helping others embrace emotional awareness, mindset transformation, and learning how to thrive through uncertainty. I’ve written several books, and now I speak and teach internationally on these topics.
You’ve spoken a lot about “flow.” What does that concept mean to you personally?
Flow is such a powerful word for me. It represents a state of surrender where you’re not pushing or pulling at life. Instead, you’re allowing it to unfold. It’s like dancing with the rhythm of the universe—you plant your seeds, nurture them, but you don’t yank at the roots to make them grow faster. When I’m in flow, I feel aligned, energized, and deeply connected to myself and the world around me. That’s where the magic happens.
Why do you think so many people struggle with uncertainty and letting go?
Because we’ve been conditioned to believe that control equals safety. From childhood, we’re taught to plan, predict, and prepare. And while those tools have their place, they can also become a prison. Uncertainty triggers fear because it asks us to trust—trust the process, trust life, trust ourselves. And that’s hard when we haven’t practiced it. Letting go means letting life unfold without knowing all the answers, and for many, that’s terrifying. But it’s also liberating once you learn how to do it.
Have you always been comfortable going with the flow?
Not at all! In fact, in my younger years, I was a total control freak. I was scared of not being good enough, of being rejected, of not belonging. To protect myself from all that fear, I micromanaged everything. I was always planning ahead or obsessing over what I could’ve done better in the past. I was never present. It took a lot of inner work to release that grip. But I started small—letting go of control in areas that felt safe—and slowly built trust in myself and in life.
Can you share a moment when letting go led to something beautiful?
Yes, one moment that stays with me is a trip to New York. A friend and I decided to ditch our maps for an hour and just wander. We ended up in this incredible little pub filled with locals—had the best time of our entire trip. That experience never would’ve happened if we hadn’t let go of the need to control our path. It was a reminder that the best adventures often happen when you surrender to the moment.
How do you teach people to handle fear and anxiety around the unknown?
It starts with self-awareness. Most of us live in the future—trying to predict outcomes—or in the past, replaying regrets. I use a powerful question to ground myself and my clients: “What do I know to be true right now?” This single question brings us back to the present. I used it during a Zoom training with LEGO when no one showed up on time. My mind tried to make up a dozen reasons why, but I kept returning to what I knew was true—and that helped me stay calm until everything worked out.
You shared that our thoughts can spiral when left unchecked. How do we stop that cycle?
Our brains are meaning-making machines. If we don’t check them, they’ll create entire stories from a single unread message. The key is to interrupt that process by asking, “Is this something I believe, or something I know?” If it’s just a belief, we can pause. Over time, with practice, the brain learns to stop spinning stories because it realizes you’re not feeding them. This leads to a quiet mind—and let me tell you, that silence is gold.
You also mention emotions a lot. What role do they play in this process?
A huge role. Thoughts alone don’t cause suffering—it’s when we attach strong emotions to those thoughts that things spiral. When fear, anxiety, or sadness attach to a story, it amplifies everything. So the work is twofold: identify the story and then disarm the emotional charge. When we do that, we become free to feel the present instead of reacting to a perceived threat that might not even exist.
For someone just beginning this journey, where should they start?
Begin with facing your fear. Ask yourself, “What am I afraid of right now?” Then follow up with, “What do I know to be true right now?” These two questions can shift your focus from panic to presence. And remember, the goal isn’t perfection—it’s progress. Even if your brain resists at first, keep practicing. Your mind will eventually get the message that you’re no longer interested in made-up stories.
What about parents who worry about their kids constantly—especially teens going out at night?
Oh, that’s such a big one. Every parent has felt that. But again, what do you know to be true? If your child said they’d be home at 2 AM and it’s 12:30, all you know is that they’re still out. Everything else is assumption. And trust—real trust—is saying, “I believe in how I raised my child.” Let go of the need to track their every move. If something goes wrong, you’ll deal with it. But don’t suffer through endless “what-ifs” that may never happen.
How do you recommend using technology like location trackers without becoming obsessive?
Use it with intention. I have my family on “Find My” too—but I only use it when absolutely necessary. If we use tools like that to fuel control, we’re feeding fear. But if we use them sparingly, as a backup, then they’re helpful. The deeper work is in trusting—not just our kids, but ourselves. We have to believe we’ve done enough, and that our loved ones can take care of themselves.
What has surprised you most on your journey of teaching these tools?
How powerful people become when they stop fighting themselves. When they stop believing every thought, when they learn to sit with their emotions without being overwhelmed—it’s like watching someone step into their true self. The transformation is breathtaking. And the best part? It’s accessible to everyone. We all have this power within us.
Let’s talk about your book, Be Your Own Rock. What inspired you to write it?
I was constantly being asked, “But how do you stop overthinking? How do you stay present?” So I created a book that’s not just theory—it’s practical and immediately usable. Be Your Own Rock is filled with real tools, exercises, and steps that help you take back your mental space and emotional power. I wanted it to be the kind of book where you don’t just feel good reading it—you actually do the work and feel the change.
What makes this book different from others in the personal growth space?
It’s actionable. Each chapter contains tools you can use right away. I dive into emotions, values, mindset, and even limiting beliefs. There’s brain science woven in too. I didn’t want to just talk about what to do—I wanted to show people how to do it. This is the book I wish I had when I started my journey.
You even narrated the audiobook yourself. What was that experience like?
It was incredible—and challenging. Recording it helped me connect even more deeply to the message. I wanted listeners to feel me there with them. The audiobook version has received such positive feedback, and I’m glad I took the leap to do it myself.
What final advice would you give people struggling with the uncertainty in today’s world?
Stop focusing on what you can’t control. There’s so much we have no power over—global events, politics, world crises. Instead, put your attention on what you can influence. It could be something as simple as what you eat today or how you respond to a loved one. That’s where your power is. Focus on what you can do, and let the rest unfold.
How can our readers further follow your work online?
You can follow me on Instagram and Facebook at @sagarconstantin.author, and connect with me on LinkedIn as well. Be Your Own Rock is available in bookstores, online, and as an audiobook on Spotify and other platforms. And if you love personal growth through storytelling, I also have three novels available that blend inspiring messages with captivating narratives.
Sagar, thank you so much for this truly inspiring conversation. Every time we talk, I leave feeling more grounded and empowered. You’ve given our readers so much wisdom to carry forward.
Thank you, Stacey. It’s always such a joy to talk with you—you have such a beautiful energy. I appreciate you creating this space where we can explore these deep topics. I look forward to our next conversation!
