How Do Guys Fall in Love

A relationship involves two people who love each other and often share the same goals.

However, many women are baffled about how men think and act. They might ask themselves, “How do guys fall in love?” This is an honest question, because in many cases, men tend to think different than women.

As ladies, we want our men to feel the same way as we do. Thus, we sometimes force feelings upon them and end up sabotaging the relationship for our efforts. However, there are six strategies that women can follow to ensure their man is head-over-heels for them.

1. Deep Emotional Connection and Feminine Presence

Allow your man to be himself around you. Having a strong emotional connection with your man helps build respect, trust, and strength. Make him know that he can talk to you about anything.

Also, when you have a deep emotional connection with your guy, your conversations are amazing, and you look forward to spending time with one another.

Sex is an important factor to keep your relationship going. Never stop having sex with your man, as it helps him experience love and helps create the connection you are looking for.

Let him know what’s going on in your life. He’s not only your guy, but also your best friend.

2. Taking a Step Back

As women, we want to spend all the time we can with our boyfriends to enjoy the newly found love we feel. However, this is not always a wise idea, especially if he’s not making the same effort.

It’s healthy for couples to have some time apart. In doing so you will have free time to spend with your friends and do other things. We don’t want our friends complaining that we abandon them because of our boyfriends. Also, you need to experience new things with your friends.

When you finally do hang out with your man, you will have something new to talk about. You also get balance in the relationship when you take time apart and give yourselves a chance to miss each other.

Don’t be the one who’s always making plans or checking up on him. Let him know that you also have other things to do. If he’s really serious with you, he will miss you.

When a man misses you, he thinks of how much he loves you and all the good things he enjoys about you. This is exactly what needs to happen time and time again.

3. Don’t Be Afraid to Spread Out

Don’t put all your eggs in one basket. Go out and meet other men. In fact, go on several dates before you settle for the man you love.

Make time from your busy schedule to meet other men, especially if you’re looking to get married. This way you have more choices and end up having more fun.

As time goes on, you can narrow down to a few guys who seem like they could be the one. One of them may be your future husband, so you need to continue narrowing them down till you settle with that one man.

Make time only for the guy who you think has all the qualities you want. He will end up trying his best to win you over and eventually fall in love with you.

4. Not Attaching Too Soon

If you don’t want your heart broken several times, avoid getting attached too soon. Don’t struggle to keep a man in your life when you’ve only dated for a week or two. Don’t force a man to spend time with you.

Love does not demand and it’s not selfish. Let it flow and allow your man to fall for you on his own without forcing him.

5. Letting Him Lead

There is nothing wrong with letting your man take the lead in the relationship, no matter how independent you’re used to being. Make a man feel needed, but don’t act needy in the process.

Maybe you’ve been single for a long time and are used to doing things on your own. However, you shouldn’t be afraid to ask him for help with things, especially things that appeal to his masculine side.

Ask for help from him and give him a purpose. Not only will you find it easier to rely on someone else, but your man will also try to win your heart by helping with duties around the house.

Having someone by your side to help out will help take the load off of you. Sharing responsibilities with him shows that you trust him enough to be in charge of things in your life.

This also means that you should listen to him when he has something to say. You don’t have to do everything he says, but you should at least listen. Also, understand that not all communication is verbal. Sometimes you have to learn how he speaks non-verbally to make him fall madly in love with you.

6. Setting Boundaries and Standards

Set boundaries in your relationship. Let your man know that you will not stand for things like lying, raising his voice at you, or not trusting you. At the same time, don’t use your partner’s past against them.

Your past life is yours and his past life is his. Your man should not make you feel bad about it, nor should you do that to him. When he knows this, he will respect you and loves you more.

He Won’t Be Able to Resist These Tips

In general, women tend to fall in love faster than men. However, this doesn’t mean that men cannot or will not fall in love whatsoever.

Show him love and appreciation while at the same time setting boundaries. Don’t be too hard on him. Allow him time to miss you and build an emotional connection with him. Following these strategies will start you down the path to a healthy relationship.

Most importantly, do what is right for you and your man.


  • Giordana Toccaceli

    International Dating, Relationship and Intimacy Expert

    Giordana Toccaceli is an International Dating, Relationship and Intimacy Expert having worked with thousands of women and men around the world to become their most attractive and magnetic selves and attract incredible partners into their lives in record time. Giordana has worked with a wide range of clients from Top CEOs, successful entrepreneurs, professional athletes, actors, models and every day men and women. She is a regular contributor to Univision TV's morning show "Despierta Austin" and the Founder of Woman's Allure and the Co-Founder of Embody Love Project.