When we tap into ourselves and really listen to the sounds of our soul, that is when the magic happens. By listening to ourselves we can ask ourselves the questions that matter, and become more resourceful and feel more satisfied in life.

It sounds really easy right?! I know, not always. What if you don’t know how to ‘tap’ into yourself. Where to start or what to do that will actually help you?

It can be difficult to really listen to yourself from within as we have direct access to so much information at the touch of a button and are so easily distracted and disconnected from ourselves in such a connected world. Ironic, I know! 

Sounds a bit crazy to think that when we live in a world that makes it so easy to connect with everyone else, we are forgetting to connect with ourselves. How can we really be in moments when we are so quickly distracted and led in different directions on social media or outside influence like the media. 

One of the things I do and teach is to tap into the ‘three brains’. This helps to tap into ourselves within, and get different perspectives that are already inside of ourselves. 

We have the Cephalic Brain (Head), the Cardiac Brain (Heart) and the Enteric Brain (Gut). These are connected through the vagus nerve, which is the largest nerve in the body running from your head to your gut. It used to be believed that the head brain sent all of the information to the rest of the body. However, we now know after further research has been done that it is actually the other way around. The gut brain sends more information to the head brain through your vagus nerve. 

The head brain has 86 billion neurons and this is where language, cognition, consciousness, and creativity begins. The head brain gives meaning to things and creates our perceptions of the world and our place in it. When we are thinking in our head brain we will say things like “I think,” “I reckon,” “I understand”.

The heart brain has 40,000 neurons that can operate independently from the head brain and handles emotional processing and connections. When we are operating from our heart brain we may say things like “I feel,” “My heart says,” “Heavy/light heart”.

The gut brain has 100 million neurons and responds to challenges and danger. We may sometimes get ‘gut feelings about something’ and it determines our core sense of self.  When operating from the gut brain we may say things like “It takes guts,” “my gut tells me”.

By tapping into our three brains we stop searching outside of ourselves for meaning; this really gives us more space within to listen to what we actually want within ourselves. It is really important to remember that although we have three brains, the head, the heart and the gut, unfortunately not everyone actually listens to what they have to say. 

When you listen to all three and check in with yourself on a consistent basis you allow them to work together to get the most effective results in life and it becomes magical. You can truly engage with yourself and your inner workings to support your goals and outcomes in life. 

Simply work through each of your brains by placing your hand onto each area and think into that area. It can be a simple question such as “How am I feeling today?” or if you have a decision to make about something then you can ask the question you are thinking about. 

Place your hand on your head first, and ask. Then move into your heart directing your attention now into your heart, then move your attention into your gut area and place your hand on your stomach asking again the same question. 

At each point just listen to yourself from within, supporting you to tap into yourself and rather than end up in situations and wondering how you got there, you can guide and lead yourself. 

Becoming the leader of your own life. 


  • Rebecca Lockwood

    Award Winning Master NLP Mindset Coach, NLP Trainer, International Speaker and #1 Best selling author

    Rebecca is an #1 best selling Author, NLP Coach & Trainer, a mum to 2 girls and she teaches Female Entrepreneurs the art and science of NLP. You can get a free copy of Rebecca’s book The Females Handbook: Step into your Personal Potential by going to www.RebeccaLockwood.org.uk.