It is not usual for an article title to start with I Don’t.
But in order to make things better, to change and to evolve there are things we simply don’t do.
So here is the list:

I don’t assume. Instead, I ask questions and learn.
I don’t burn bridges because I come to egotistical conclusions. Instead, I keep an open mind and don’t behave like a spoiled child.
I don’t turn my back to people who have stood by me through the years, because I came to the assumption that they “betrayed” me. Instead, I talk to them and find the truth.
I don’t keep hunting people down to keep in touch. Instead, I let them go. Any relationship is a two-way street.
I don’t accept rudeness. Instead, I choose to distance myself.
I don’t answer to anyone about my life’s decisions. Instead, I live by my decisions and people who genuinely respect me will stand by me.
I don’t jump to assumptions. Instead, I try to find out the reason of any situation before I pass judgment.
I don’t hate. Instead, I live and let live.

We are here to live to the best of our abilities, to learn, to grow, to evolve, to mature and to give others the right to do the same.
Anything less, is petty, pointless, selfish, and ego driven.

There is nothing in life that allows us to pass judgment about ANYONE before we know their truth, their story and the reasons behind any of their actions.

We do not live expecting respect. We earn it and we work to keep it.

All this applies to our personal AND professional lives. We can never assume, judge, be rude and simply turn our backs to people just because we are selfish, insecure, and think that only we have the right to behave a certain way.

We learn so that we know better.
And as Maya Angelou said: We know better so that we can do better.


  • Mariella Stockmal

    Operations & Risk Management Executive

    I combine many years of experience and strategy to create results across various functions from eCommerce, Finance, Operations, and Risk. Skills and Experience: * Operations & Office Management * Finance, Fraud Management and Safety Measures creation to protect brands and companies. * Claims, Disputes and Chargebacks (Vantiv, Braintree, Ethoca, PayPal, Shopify, Global Collect, Adyen etc.) * QuickBooks and Bookkeeping * Policy Creation specific to an organization’s goals * Ability to solve problems * Desire to learn new things * Passion and adaptability * Slack, Zoom, G-Suite, and other office/business software * Accustomed to handling sensitive, confidential records. * Diplomatic and tactful with professionals and non-professionals at all levels * Word, Excel, Google Drive, Social Media * Fully equipped home office for remote work assignments * Languages: Greek, German, English, conversational French and Italian Job History: Owner at Business And Risk Management Jan 2018 – Current Blog about Business, Risk, Finance and Fraud Protection. Risk Manager, TrackR September 2015, January 2018 Protected the company from fraud and unauthorized transactions. Brought chargeback rate down from 17% to 0.3%. Also worked with QuickBooks online doing reconciliations and entering data. Chargebacks – Claims Manager, FastSpring December 2011 – September 2015, Santa Barbara, CA Worked closely with co-founders, managed Fraud and Chargebacks, and worked with QuickBooks. Created policies, updated back end to portray proper sales/refunds. COO, Music Education - Music Performance Risk Management and Policy Creation, Financial management. Operations Manager at Santa Barbara International Film Festival Office Operations Management, policy implementation. COO, D. Kallonas & Son. Ltd. Policy creation, overall Company operations, international travel and finance