Studies show that stress and loneliness has been estimated to shorten a person’s life by 15 years!
This is equivalent in impact to smoking 15 cigarettes per day.
Now let’s clear one thing up briefly -loneliness isn’t the same thing as being alone. Some solitude is good for you and in fact we should have moments of solitude built into our day so that we can think in a non-distracted environment
Many people feel very lonely while going through a divorce and even after.
Just think about it You spent your time with your spouse.
You made plans with your spouse.
You were raising kids with your spouse
And now what started as a partnership is ending a single endeavor.
Many people feel that they deserve to be lonely or they feel pressured to jump into a new relationship to solve the problem. Both of these are not good solutions. God made us to be in constant communion with others.
So here are two strategies to implement that will help with the loneliness:

  1. Look for support and community with others that have been through, or are going through the same thing you are dealing with. It’s often a good reminder to know that you’re not alone.
  2. Plan out a new routine for yourself. Find special things that delight just you and find news ways to get involved with things that inspire you (I.e. take a cooking class , start that small business, volunteer at church etc.)


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    Life Coach and Best Selling Author

    Dr. Nicolya Williams is the type of woman who pursues her goals with passion and determination. She is dedicated to helping other women Conquer their Chaos and reach their goals. Dr. Nicolya is a personal development coach, radio host, best-selling author, and blogger for women. Dr. Nicolya graduated from The Ohio State University (B.A., Psychology) and obtained her M.Ed from the University of Dayton with a focus on Clinical Counseling and School Counseling. Dr. Nicolya graduated with honors from Concordia University-Portland with her doctorate in Transformational Leadership. Dr. Nicolya holds a Coach Practitioner certificate and is licensed as both a Community Counselor and School Counselor, with a Chemical Dependency Counselor Assistant license. As a coach, Dr. Nicolya divides her time between empowering women one-on-one, and motivating groups of women through Master Classes. She enjoys encouraging women to write their own books; to tell their stories and share their message. To reach her audience, Dr. Nicolya speaks at conferences and acts as a mentor to women around the world, teaching them to rediscover their spark after divorce and breakups. Dr. Nicolya, a lifelong learner, strives to continue her personal growth through reading and interacting with her social and spiritual community. She is an avid reader and is devoted to building up her own strong women; her two daughters, Kaelyn and Kamryn. Dr. Nicolya is committed to creating a space for women to be heard and find the happiness and success they deserve! You can connect with Dr. Nicolya at or on all social media platforms via @NicolyaWilliams.