If you found out that you or your child was diabetic or had cancer, you would drop everything you were doing to educate yourself and immediately get treatment.  There would not be a moment’s hesitation of what needed to be done.  Certainly, you may ask the doctor what needed to be done to get healthy and you’d immediately dive straight in.  You’d change diets, start chemotherapy, etc.  But why is it that when someone is diagnosed with something like say, anxiety or depression, it’s brushed off like it’s not as important as a physical health diagnosis? It’s emotional health awareness month. Let’s do something about this.

Let’s break it down:  A mental health diagnosis can be just as biological as finding out you have Chron disease or asthma.  If the doctor told you had that you wouldn’t continue to eat what you were eating for fear that it would continue to inflame your intestines.  Or if you were diagnosed with asthma you wouldn’t say “thanks” to the doctor and laugh your way out of the office without requesting an inhaler.  We need to treat a mental health diagnosis just like we would any other diagnosis.  Unlike some chronic illnesses, you can get help to live a better life with a mental health diagnosis.  It only happens though, if you take the diagnosis and recommended care seriously.

If you just learned that you were diagnosed with multiple-sclerosis, you would be like Selma Blair and immediately undergo an experimental stem-cell treatment.  You wouldn’t bat an eye at doing what needed to be done.  If you found out you had heart disease you would drop everything.  You might quit your stressful job, take up exercising regularly, stop smoking and drinking, and completely flip your diet.  You wouldn’t casually shrug off learning you had heart disease.  You’d immediately change everything. But why is it in hearing that you have a mood disorder you pretend it’s not true?

Let’s be real folks, a mental health diagnosis isn’t a bad cold.  You can’t just hope it’ll go away and ride it out “naturally.”  Hoping it goes away is like saying “I’m going to cross my fingers my cancer just disappears” without doing any type of drastic change or undergoing treatment.  Hope without action is hopeless.  Seriously.  We need to rally behind folks who are diagnosed with a mental illness.  In this situation, we need to treat the mind and body equally. We need to prioritize mental health.   For real this time.

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  • Joanna Lilley, MA, NCC

    Therapeutic Consultant / Young Adult Transition Specialist / College Success Coach

    Lilley Consulting

    After previously working at two institutions of higher education, specifically in Student Success & Retention, Joanna hung up her shingle to provide support for the flight of students leaving colleges campuses.  She now dedicates herself to working solely with emerging adults who unravel when they land on a college campus.  Her passion and drive is to coach this population back into good academic standing, or connect this population to mental health and substance abuse treatment programs that will provide stability, sobriety, and the executive functioning skills this population needs to move forward in life.  Most of her clients are currently enrolled on campus, or those who have already left feeling defeated.  With a magic wand, Joanna supports young adults with mental health issues with their the transition into adulthood and back into higher education.  Fear not, she works with the entire family system to help them heal and grow as this is not a "quick fix."  You can learn more about Lilley Consulting by checking out the website.  You can also listen to the Success is Subjective Podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or any podcast listening platform where she interviews individuals across the country who took a break during their emerging adulthood years.  This podcast is ideal for young adults or families members who are looking for hope and relief in supporting a loved one.  When not working with young adults, you will find Joanna writing or playing outdoors with her rescue pup in the mountains of western Colorado.