Narcissistic personality disorder is a condition in which the person drowns in self-love, seeing everyone else and anything else as unimportant. A narcissist lacks empathy towards others. He/she focus on feelings of self-importance, self-admiration, and grandiosity, crushing all chances of emotional connections, friendships, and relationships. Very few people can endure marriage with a narcissistic person. These are marriages shrouded with either selfishness, self-hate, shame, verbal and even physical abuse.
Selfishness
People with Narcissistic personality disorder believe they are more superior and unique than everyone else. They usually come around as arrogant and self-centered. Narcissistic people will always try to manipulate situations for their selfish interests as they wallow in a miasma of beauty, power, and success.Usually, in the face of criticism or defeat, they feel hurt, shameful and may even withdraw into a state of depression and self-hate.
A spouse with narcissistic personality disorder spouse will selfishly focus on their wellbeing, their image, and their ego at the expense of love. As soon as you discover your partner has narcissistic personality disorder you might want to leave the marriage before you get sucked into a life of sadness, heartbreaks, and tears.
Lack of empathy
Narcissists don’t have emotional empathy. Your narcissistic partner will never feel sorry for hurting you in any way. They might never even notice your plain, and if they do, they may never care. For any given mistake, you can expect that he or she will always shift the blame on you. Because of this lack of caring connection with your partner, narcissistic personality disorder might be a reason to get divorced.
A spouse with a narcissistic personality disorder will not see you realistically. They suffer from a warped perspective where their “whole object relations” is compromised. Whole object relations is an ability to understand the good and bad in people and accept that both can exist. Your husband or wife might consistently see you as an imperfect person.
Unapologetic
Narcissist partners may never take responsibility for their actions. To a wife or husband with narcissistic personality disorder, accepting blame is a puncture to their self-esteem. It makes them feel worthless and vulnerable such that they recline to self-hatred. Then also, such a person might never apologize. You might get a gift or any other reparative gesture but never the words “I’m sorry.”
You can never speak your mind with a spouse who has narcissistic personality disorder. They tend to interpret innocuous comments or actions as offensive. If you are open to them about how they hurt your feelings, the relationship will turn even sourer. The person lives in a continuous “fight mode.” At this point, you might have to get a divorce before the situation affects your wellbeing.
Verbal and physical abuse
Narcissistic spouses don’t respect boundaries. Beyond the mundane fighting and feelings of self-importance, they will likely slip into verbal abuse and even physical violence. This is where things become unbearable for most people. Verbal and physical insults should be your fast ticket out of the marriage.
Living with a narcissistic spouse, you will always wonder whether or not they love you. There might be days when they give you happiness and some other where they hurt you and fill you with fear. This kind of relationship will cause damage to your emotional and physical health.
People who choose to stay in marriage with narcissistic personality disorder need psychological assistance. Without that many of them end up in drugs, depression, obesity, and illnesses. Divorce always seems the only logical way out.