No matter how much we dream of the knight in shining armour whisking us off to the castle to live happily ever after, or the powerful leader who spots our talents and plucks us out of mundane corporate obscurity catapulting us into the dream career opportunity, or the fairy godmother who swooshes away our endless domestic drudgery in one sparkly flick of her glittery wand, no matter how much we dream and wish and want, there is nobody coming. (Not even this surprise photo-bombing Lord a Leaping!)

It’s a common mid-life awakening as this realisation finally sinks in. Knights, rescuers, godmothers, et al, they just don’t exist. We are 100% responsible for creating our own destinies.  Don’t get me wrong, I’m the first to trust in diving timing, but being in that right place at that right time is a consequence of a gazillion incidences having led to that seemingly fortuitous moment.

Look at your life today and understand that it is entirely a representation of the decisions you’ve made, the choices you’ve leaned into and the influences you’ve trusted. It’s a representation of the work that you have done, the hours you’ve toiled and the focus and effort you’ve applied to the various life realms. (Think wheel of life – health, romance, career, money, spirituality, family, etc.) Your life is a manifestation of what you have done to date. If there’s anything you don’t like as you examine it then it’s up to you to take action to change it. If you’re unhappy in your work, do something else, identify your passions and look at how you could weave more of them into your day to day efforts. If you’re unhappy in your romantic relationship, either improve it or change it. If you’re miserable with your living conditions, tidy up, clean up, redecorate, refresh, move. Choices are abundant (global pandemics permitting) and a suffering, victim mindset serves no one, least of all you. Equally a waiting, wishing, yearning mindset where you hope for a solution in the form of that person, that opportunity, that new path is futile. Yes hope gives us courage and strength to persevere but hope without action is simply wasteful.

The quicker we seize the truth that once childhood dependency on our parents/carers ceases (and please note not everyone had that privilege as a constant in the first place) and we are wholly responsible for our adult lives, for our emotional, mental, physical and intellectual wellbeing, the quicker we leap into a place of potentiality, a place where dreams can indeed be realised.  We hold the power within ourselves to lead the lives we desire. As ever, it’s respecting the power of choices and consequences and how they impact our joy, fulfilment and happiness that is key to the life of your dreams. So, if you’ve clarity of your personal fairytale and know you won’t rest until it’s a reality, don’t wait for magic to happen, create the magic yourself. It’s all without your grasp with the right effort, focus and graft. Miracles can indeed happen but only when you invite them in yourself.

Author(s)

  • Bianca Best

    Bianca Best | Success Strategist, Author, Mother, Speaker, Believer

    The Big Impact Way

    Bianca Best is a woman of impact. She is an award-winning global business leader, best-selling author, certified Success Strategist, entrepreneur, speaker and single mother of 4 eradicating burnout one twinkle at a time.   “I’ve sparkled my way through life reaching my stars and then some. For a long while I was in boom-bust mode, achieving my dreams then crashing, soaring but struggling, excited but exhausted… Until I perfected the route to Big Impact Without Burnout, mastering a ‘no compromise’ recipe for success, peace and power through graceful productivity and integrity always. I now sprinkle my Big Impact Way out into the world with the intention that more ambitious individuals star in their own stories with a twinkle not a twizzle!.”    Bianca describes her CV as a chronology of passions explored and includes a decade as a techpreneur running The Bespoke Gift Company which pioneered the personalised gift industry forever, a decade of corporate ascendency running vast digital divisions in the world’s largest comms conglomerates from WPP to Publicis Groupe, to certifying in healing modalities from hypnotherapy to executive coaching (ICF accredited), to her international impact inspiring the working world through her keynotes and workshops in organisations like Google, Amazon and Snap, best-selling books, vlogs and corporate programmes where she illuminates, inspires and ignites.   Her organization BIANCA BEST. is dedicated to infusing the working world with graceful productivity, kind leadership and unlocked human potential whereby individuals and organisations flourish and big impact without burnout is the mainstay.    For more of her work and sparkle visit www.biancabest.com