Self-care is not as elusive as it once was. And what’s more, it is not only required but also necessary. Luckily, however, self-care is now beginning to be widely accepted as a staple of healthy living. Taking some time for yourself, be it yoga, meditation, fitness, or even a good, long, relaxing bath, will help you get through the day and keep yourself healthy in the process. 

Nevertheless, there are still a lot of people out there, hard-working moms, workaholics, diligent students, you name it, who are always looking at self-care as something indulgent and over-permissive. If they are not working until near exhaustion, they don’t feel like they are deserving or that they are somehow slacking off.   

Well, the fact of the matter is that it’s not. In fact, giving yourself some time to unwind and relax is healthy, necessary, and it doesn’t even need to be time-consuming. 

What Is Self-Care?

Self-care can take on many shapes and sizes, and it can be unique to every one of us. It is anything and everything that makes us happy, confident, and feeling whole. Yoga, light physical exercises, showering, traveling, reading, clothes shopping, listening to music, or meditating are, among many others, examples of self-care.

The beauty here is that the more you take care of yourself, the better and brighter your days will become. Do it regularly, and you will not want to change a thing. And as luck would have it, the only person standing in your way from investing more time in yourself is you. 

Eliminate Distractions and Time Wasters

The reason so many people do not take the necessary time for themselves is that they feel they don’t have enough time, to begin with. But unbeknownst to us, there are plenty of time wasters and distractions around us that eat up a lot of our time.

Stop checking your emails regularly. Stop multitasking. Delegate more. Start saying NO from time to time. Keep yourself organized. Stop inviting interruptions like sending texts to friends while at work. They are a few examples of what you can do to save up on time. You’ll be surprised how much time is wasted on trivial things. 

Establish a Routine

Like with any habit, it is hard to start and keep yourself motivated. There is no one-size-fits-all approach to the issue, but it is best to start with it the moment you arise in the morning. Wake up gently and happily, and don’t rush anything. Then you will be sufficiently energized to start your day properly.

Don’t be too hard on yourself. Self-care shouldn’t be seen as a chore, but quite the opposite. Make it an effortless experience by preparing your space ahead of time. Do not let yourself be tempted in checking your emails or social media, as these are nothing more than distractions, at this point.  

Last but not least, you will need to give yourself enough time to complete the routine without rushing it. In the beginning, you may feel that you’ve “wasted” too much of your time by taking some for yourself, but don’t give in to that temptation. We suggest you start with around 20 minutes of self-care per day; then move to 30 to 60 minutes as you get more comfortable. You can even spread this time throughout the day into three 20-minute periods – one in the morning, one at lunch, and the other in the evening. It is only 4% of the day, by the way, which you dedicated solely to yourself. That doesn’t sound like much now, does it?


It’s the little things that make life beautiful, and self-care is just an expression of that. Do not be afraid to be happy and whole; otherwise, you’ll regret it. If you want to learn more about self-care, a great place to start is with your habits of thinking. Take my Habit Finder assessment to see how you really think about thinking. It’s truly metacognition at it’s best and scientifically measured.



  • Deborah Crowe

    Executive & Life Coach

    Davwill Consulting

    Deb Crowe grew up in Ontario, Canada. She has lived in many small rural communities across Ontario during her youth and moved to London, Ontario in 1980 at the age of 14 and has lived there ever since. Deb’s heart will always remain in the country, however, city life has its benefits as well, so she has the best of both worlds now! Deb is an “out of the box” and innovative thinker who loves to learn and create.  She is a true Multipreneur. She has worked all over the globe, across various sectors and prides herself on both coaching and business consulting. Currently, Deb is a certified Og Mandino Habit Finder Coach, speaker, author, and yoga instructor. Deb’s favorite role is being wife to John (25 years and counting!) and mom to Christine and Laura. Deb has her disability management certificate from Brock University and also graduated from The Richard Ivey School of Business for Entrepreneurship.  Deb is a lifelong learner and an avid reader. Deb prides herself on always reading two books at the same time. One for business and one for pleasure! Deb has co-authored four books since 2015 and is currently working on her first solo book on work-life integration with an emphasis on self-care. Deb has also created an annual women’s conference commencing in October 2018 with a complete emphasis on self-care. She will be taking this conference across Canada in 2019. Deb’s message is that “Growth always comes from the valley”. Deb’s passion is for helping women find integration in their life and have daily self-care. “Life is about progression, moving forward and not attempting to have perfection”. For speaking, press or book inquiries reach out at [email protected], (519) 878-5839 or visit