Not long ago, I wrote what I don’t do and instead what I do.
Today, I will explain some basic behavior yes and nos.

Don’t “avoid” people in order to please others. Instead, be truthful. NOBODY has the right to dictate who you have a relationship with.

Don’t “use” people for any reason. Instead be honest, be kind, be reciprocal.

Don’t promise people that you will meet them or that you will be in touch if you are not going to. Instead, be polite and explain that you have no intention of following up for your own reasons. It is always best to be well mannered, especially if people have stood by you, have helped you and are there when you need them.

Don’t constantly lie to others by being “sorry” that you can’t see them or find time for them. Instead, be truthful.

Don’t take sides unless you hear both sides of any story. Put your feet in others’ shoes and don’t judge before you know all the facts.

Don’t belittle people, don’t talk smack behind their backs. If you have an issue with anyone, talk to them. Be open, be honest and be ready to LISTEN!

Don’t lie to people to make them change their mind about anyone! Life has a way to to always show you the truth.


You can never go wrong by being a decent human being.


  • Mariella Stockmal

    Operations & Risk Management Executive

    I combine many years of experience and strategy to create results across various functions from eCommerce, Finance, Operations, and Risk. Skills and Experience: * Operations & Office Management * Finance, Fraud Management and Safety Measures creation to protect brands and companies. * Claims, Disputes and Chargebacks (Vantiv, Braintree, Ethoca, PayPal, Shopify, Global Collect, Adyen etc.) * QuickBooks and Bookkeeping * Policy Creation specific to an organization’s goals * Ability to solve problems * Desire to learn new things * Passion and adaptability * Slack, Zoom, G-Suite, and other office/business software * Accustomed to handling sensitive, confidential records. * Diplomatic and tactful with professionals and non-professionals at all levels * Word, Excel, Google Drive, Social Media * Fully equipped home office for remote work assignments * Languages: Greek, German, English, conversational French and Italian Job History: Owner at Business And Risk Management Jan 2018 – Current Blog about Business, Risk, Finance and Fraud Protection. Risk Manager, TrackR September 2015, January 2018 Protected the company from fraud and unauthorized transactions. Brought chargeback rate down from 17% to 0.3%. Also worked with QuickBooks online doing reconciliations and entering data. Chargebacks – Claims Manager, FastSpring December 2011 – September 2015, Santa Barbara, CA Worked closely with co-founders, managed Fraud and Chargebacks, and worked with QuickBooks. Created policies, updated back end to portray proper sales/refunds. COO, Music Education - Music Performance Risk Management and Policy Creation, Financial management. Operations Manager at Santa Barbara International Film Festival Office Operations Management, policy implementation. COO, D. Kallonas & Son. Ltd. Policy creation, overall Company operations, international travel and finance