Break out of the same ole same ole routines and rediscover the passion for your partner. It doesn’t matter your age or how long you’ve been together. Spring is in the air, do you have Spring Fever?  

You don’t have to be a “Spring Chicken” to have Spring Fever! You can rediscover the passion for your partner at any age. It’s not only young men who experience this phenomenon when his “fancy turns to thoughts of love”.  If you’ve still got a pulse, chances are that you are susceptible to Spring Fever as well. It doesn’t matter if you and your partner are in your 40’s, 50’s or beyond, you can take that desire and passion that you feel and help your partner to feel it (and act on it) too.

You’re never too old for passion to be expressed. All of your desires and dreams originate in the mind. This most seductive and passionate desire that you feel can and should be expressed with your partner. It may have been weeks or months since you were intimate with each other, but don’t be surprised to learn that your partner is feeling the same desire as you are. They may just be keeping it to themselves due to uncertainty about how you feel. 

If you and your partner have a solid emotional connection and loving communication between you, you can both feel free to express your desire. You two know each other better than anyone, and you well remember how passionate and in love you’ve been in the past. Those feelings ripen and season with time, but they don’t go away. Take some time to be with your partner remembering how much you loved being together, feeling that passion for each other and acting on it. Remind each other that you’re still the same people. Sure, you’ve aged, your bodies have changed, but the heart and soul of your love for each other is still within you.

Maybe kids and careers took up most of your time and energy, that’s not uncommon. It’s up to you to work out ways to keep your love alive even when life happens. Our society’s standards of beauty are unrealistic and can be damaging if taken to heart. True beauty increases with age.

There is something so beautiful about a woman who has lived and shows some experience and time in her face. A woman of a certain age knows who she is and is alive in her feminine power in a way that young women are not. A man who has some years behind him has a gravitas, confidence and deep appreciation for intimacy that young men do not. It’s so important for your relationship that you keep this in mind and do not let life get in the way of you expressing your love and passion for one another. 

We all want to feel loved, appreciated and desired by our partners. When Spring Fever strikes, heat things up with your partner and share that passion together. This is your best time of life, when you and your partner can still enjoy each other on the most basic and intimate level. Remember that your brain is your largest sex organ, and you and your partner deserve to live a passionate and beautiful life together. 


  • Stuart Fensterheim

    Stuart Fensterheim, LCSW

    The Couples Expert

    Stuart Fensterheim, LCSW helps couples to overcome the disconnection in their relationships. As an author, blogger and podcaster, Stuart has helped couples around the world to experience a unique relationship in which they can feel special and important, confident in knowing they are loved deeply and that their presence matters. His weekend workshop, Two Days: Seven Conversations has become a popular venue for many to set off on their journey of connectedness. The Couples Expert Podcast consists of weekly provocative conversations offering the perspectives and insight of experts from a variety of relationship related fields. Stuart also offers daily relationship video tips on The Couples Expert YouTube channel and by subscription in Stuart's Daily Notes. Stuart is happily married and a devoted father of 2 daughters. His office practice serves the greater Phoenix, Arizona area including the cities of Scottsdale, Chandler, Tempe, and Mesa.