I’m 47, nearly 48 years old. I wear second hand clothes or those I design myself.

I am a certified eccentric, living life in my own way, to my own beat.

I live in an old cottage where nothing matches, there are no straight walls and I’ve given up trying to keep on top of the cobwebs.

I spend my days treading a fine line between chaos, complete madness, tears, joy, frustration, genius, incoherent rambling, exhaustion and frenzied activity.

I love deeply, I’m extremely sensitive, I have the concentration span of a gnat, I’m impatient, loyal, unpredictable and extremely curious.

Some days I’m sorted, I have cracked life and feel on top of the world. Other days, I’m a complete failure and utterly clueless about what the f*ck I am doing with my life.

But the one consistent thing I am, is honest.

Honest about who and what I am.

I do not ever want to hide my flaws, be ashamed of my story or loose my voice.

And those people who love me, can do so in the absolute knowledge, that what they see, is what they get.

That’s where true love, deep connection and contentment is to be found – not in the beautifully airbrushed, superficial illusion of life, we often see, because people are just too scared to show themselves, lest they see who they really are.

Just be yourself always. There really is no other choice, if you want the chance to live fully before you die.

A bit about me: I aspire to inspire people to be themselves, to embrace all of themselves, warts and all. To re-define our reality, to be more honest and sustainable. To re-define success, to be more diverse and focus on the stuff that really matters, not the shiny sh•t, that you cannot take with you anyway.

No-one will remember what car you drove, but my goodness, they will remember if you made them smile, feel good about themselves and accepted them for who they are. It is the gifts of kindness and understanding that will last beyond your lifetime, not the gifts of gold.

I’m a mum, writer, transformation consultant and all round eccentric, doing my own thing, in my own way, in the hope I can make others smile and love themselves a little bit more.

My blog, library of curiosity, daily inspiration and lots of other things, can be found on my website www.nikdavis.com.

My alternative and eclectic approach to fashion and design can be found at www.lillyisabella.co.uk.

Let’s have a conversation.

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  • Nik Davis

    Writer - Managing The Hell Out Of Life

    nikdavis.com

    First and foremost I am a mother, home-maker and 'change maker'. I have a portfolio career, all underpinned by one core philosophy - to make life better, by empowering us all to be ourselves.    As James Victore says “Your purpose is to figure out who you are."    I am passionate about finding a way to help us all live a more sustainable life, I call this my ‘Third Way'. To help us re-define what success looks like, to live more authentic lives and to be our 'whole' selves.   "Your biggest fear is not spiders or sharks - it's you. It's the fear of expressing who you are - lest someone actually see you.“ James Victore   And that is where the real problem lies, if we do not allow our true selves to be seen, we will never lead the life that we are meant to. And that leaves us with something far worse than fear - regret.   So I feel the fear and do it anyway  - each and everyday by living my Third Way.   On a practical level that means:   1. Helping organisations achieve the 'seemingly impossible' and experience genuine transformation, driven by engaged and motivated people.    2. Showing up and owning up, sharing my stories and challenges honestly, via blogging and vlogging, to help others embrace theirs and be their true selves.    3. Helping individuals to rise, find their way forward through discovery sessions, a combination of coaching and consulting techniques.    4. Being a student of life, constantly learning about better ways to live our lives, both at work and play, to share that knowledge and to help create curious and empathetic leaders - which we all have the ability to be, regardless of gender, age, seniority, function or anything else for that matter.    5. Running an artisan fashion and design business, to encourage us all to be ourselves and at the same time, respect our planet by recycling and up cycling.    My career has two acts, before and after my break, which I took to focus on my children and recover from PND, but I also experienced grief, discovered what mortality really meant and learnt a lot about this mad this called life.   I practice the management philosophy 'Teal', brought to life beautifully by Frederick Laloux, I follow the work of Dave Trott, James Victore, Dan Pink, Corporate Rebels, Claude Silver, Gabrielle Bernstein, Mark Manson, Kathryn Mannix and Johan Hari, to name but a few. If they enable me to 'build on the shoulders of giants' and make the world a better place, I'm interested.   I’m an eccentric trying to make the most of my life and that of others, each and every day.   Nik x