A couple of months ago, I moved from Chicago to Arizona. When I moved, one of the things I was guided to do was to sell all of my furniture and get new furniture, which was definitely quite the stretch for me!

Through this process, though, what became quite clear, was a process I developed for myself to create exactly what I wanted, a process I initially used to find my (amazing!!) assistant, then my amazing apartment, and now, the beautiful furniture in it. (While I used this for the above, this process can really be used for everything, including finding a love partner, new job or a new home!)

So, what is this process?

1. Create a list of exactly what you’d want to have (and feel), if you weren’t settling, and hold the space for it.

When I first started this process, I created a list of what I wanted in my furniture, including what I wanted to feel. 

What did this list include?

It included feeling calm, me loving it and it being comfortable, to name a few. 

Right away in doing so, this helped me to get clear and place my wish list to the Universe. 

With this, I held the space and vision for what it would look like in my new place, which included seeing and feeling it in my mind.

Then, many times before I went into the store, especially in the beginning, I’d read my wishlist, which brings me to #2. 

2. Get in the feeling of it before you even start moving forward. 

As part of the above, I’d get into the feeling of it. So, for example, I’d feel how comfy it was and what I’d want it to feel like in my apartment. (In the case of my assistant, one of the things I did was to feel what it felt like for us to work together. By the way, the first time we got on the phone (before I hired her!), she started working for me, showing me what areas of opportunity she saw in my business. Having a partner for my work was another thing I had put on my list!)

3. Say no to all of the things that don’t feel quite right. 

Through this process, I had many opportunities to say no. Many times, this meant noticing several things:

First, I had to notice where I was forcing it or rushing. (It didn’t help that my aunt had very generously lent me some furniture in the interim, and I was eager to get it back to her.)

With this, too, it was amazing to me, though I guess not surprising, how many sales people wanted me to make a decision on the spot and looked at me like I had two heads when I said I was going to think about it. While I know they are probably trained to do this, it had taken years to cultivate a practice of not people pleasing or buying into others’ timelines, which came in handy during this process. 

Second, I had to notice when something felt slightly off. This happened several times, including with my dining room table and with my dresser and nightstands. What was interesting with the latter was that, while the bed that went with it felt exactly right, I found myself delaying the purchase. It was finally (again!), when I took some space and stepped into consciousness around what I was doing, that I asked myself why.

My intuitive answer:

“Something about it doesn’t feel light. It just doesn’t feel quite right.”

So, I stepped into infinite possibilities (which is a part of holding space for your vision) and asked for more options, again, trusting the process and that I would find the perfect pieces.

With this, too, it also meant noticing what I was saying yes to. The more times I said yes to what felt exactly right, and said no to what didn’t, the more I was getting very clear with the Universe what I wanted exactly, and the more I attracted, and really, created it.

4. Reap the rewards and take in the fruits of your labor!

While the journey is always fun, too, this is the final (and most fun!) part of the process!

For me, this is just beginning to happen, but I cannot wait to be sitting in my apartment with my furniture, feeling the abundance and calm in it all, as I continue to create the next level of life!

This level is for all of us, but we have to choose it first, tuning in, then taking brave action. 

This, and only this, is when the Universe chooses it, too!

Happy Manifesting!


  • Deb Acker

    Author, Speaker and Intuitive Relationship Healer for Women - What if you never had another painful relationship again? To begin, join me at my Complimentary Putting an End to Painful Relationships Masterclass at bit.ly/ending-pain.

    About Deb Acker: Before Deb turned two, her dad left and when she was seventeen her mom passed away. Until Deb truly understood and healed the root cause of these, these two life-changing moments caused deep pain in her relationships and life that took many years to heal. In the process, she would learn forgiveness, the importance of owning all of our emotions, not just the good ones, and most importantly, how to heal deep-rooted patterns and create long-lasting relationships and life-changing transformation to powerfully support her clients. As an intuitive, Deb's New YouTube Channel, The Relationship Healing Channel for Women, as well as her Living Deeply Workshops, Audios and Programs, expand upon these lessons and many of the tools, awarenesses and concepts shared in her first book, Living Deeply: A Transformational Journey Through Deep Pain, Loss and Abandonment to Healing, Self-Love and Miracles. When she's not clearing energy blocks & childhood patterns, teaching, speaking or writing, which have included writing for The Huffington Post, Elephant Journal, Women for One and Thrive Global, you can find Deb working out and traveling the world. To find out more about Deb, visit her at deborahacker.com, and join Deb at her Complimentary Masterclass, Putting an End to Painful Relationships: The Three Biggest Issues that Keep You Stuck, Hurting and Struggling, Repeating Your Relationship Patterns at bit.ly/ending-pain.