Relationship. Do you have one? Would you like one? Oftentimes, people who are not currently in a relationship, make having a relationship a primary source for their happiness. They decide that if they have a romantic relationship with someone, then they can be happy and if they do not, happiness will continue to elude them. This point of view can stop you from having satisfaction in life.

It is important to choose happiness now, before jumping into a relationship. From that place, if a relationship is something you think you would like to pursue, here are 3 questions to ask before saying yes to a relationship:

1.    Ask, “What’s the most important thing to me?”

If you are wondering what asking what is important to you has to do with being in relationship, let me tell you. Everything! If you don’t know what matters to you, if you are not clear on what you desire for your life, you will have no way of choosing a partner that is supportive of those things.

Here are some questions you can ask:

·      What would I like my life to be like in five years? 

·      Do I want to travel? 

·      How much money do I want to make? What sort of career do I desire?

When you are clear on what’s important to you, then you can create a relationship that actually contributes to you having, doing and being all of that. How different would your relationship be if it was an addition to your life, not a replacement for your life? 

2.    Will this person be needless of me? 

Even though it’s contrary to popular belief, the people that create the most success in their relationships have no need of their partner. When you have no need of your partner, you can have gratitude. When you have need of your partner, gratitude goes away. Choosing a partner who is needless of you is key to your relationship. If you are needless you end up creating more together as you don’t have a fixed point of view of what you require from someone.

3.    Will this be fun?

Relationship is actually about creation and the continuous contribution you can be to one another. Most people get into them based on what they’ve decided relationships are all about. They’re looking for someone to complete them or make them happy. This is a fantasy that doesn’t exist. You don’t require something outside of you to be happy, and you aren’t incomplete. You are the source for your life. You can choose to be happy in every moment of every day. And, a positive relationship can make your life more fun. 

Relationships can add to the fun, joy and adventure of your life. They can also take away from it. Clarify what you desire for your life and commit to having it. Recognize that you are complete and do not need anyone and choose someone who will be needless of you as well. Don’t take things too seriously. Instead, have fun! These keys are the foundation for any successful relationship. 


  • Simone Milasas

    Business Leader, Bestselling Author, Global Speaker, Self-confessed Compulsive Creator

    Simone Milasas is an innovative business leader, best-selling author, global speaker, and self-confessed compulsive creator. Simone’s capacity for wealth creation catapulted her from $187K in debt to a thriving and diversified portfolio including co-owner of Castello di Casalborgone in Italy, The Antique Guild and Antiques and Possibilities in Australia, and El Lugar, an Eco-retreat in Costa Rica. Simone’s approach to business for the past 30 years cannot be found inside a textbook, rather she follows the energy, listening for what she calls “the whispers of awareness and consciousness” and is always in question of what next. She is the founder of Joy of Business, a program that mentors entrepreneurs globally to create greater wealth, success, and happiness. Coinciding with this, she is also one of the main Advanced Facilitators of and Business Development Coordinator for Access Consciousness®, and Simone has been instrumental in growing the company into over 175 countries across the globe. Simone’s perspective on life is not about ticking boxes, rather to enjoy abundant living and to be fully engaged with all choices. She has always had a desire to explore all parts of the world, gaining more of her with every diverse choice she makes. Including enjoying her body with martial arts, Pilates, running, hiking, and appreciating great food and a great bottle of wine. Simone is the author of Joy of Business and best-sellers Getting Out of Debt Joyfully, translated into multiple languages and Relationship: Are You Sure You Want One? Find Simone on her weekly podcast, The Choice, Change and Action podcast, where she invites listeners to choose a different reality.