We all have fears. Recently I have been thinking a lot about this subject, as it has come up often in my coaching sessions. Perhaps this is because of all the things that are going on in our world right now, or perhaps fear has always had a strong role in our lives.

Fear is prevalent in so many different ways.

What is fear? Fear is defined by the dictionary as an unpleasant often strong emotion caused by anticipation or awareness of danger; anxious concern; and reason for alarm. Fear fundamentally changes our physiological state, in addition to our behavior and response. When we engage with a fearful stimulus, our bodies are equipped with the innate function for flight or flight – to stay or flee. Oftentimes fear is an unpleasant emotion or belief. It arises from the feeling that there is a real or perceived danger or a threat present.

This is such an important topic, especially today. One of the most important things that we can do for ourselves is to recognize the presence of the fear, identify what the fear is and how it is showing up. We cannot move through anything in life without first bringing consciousness to it. I encourage you to think about the things that cause you to fear in this world. What can we do when we connect with the fear that we hold in ourselves? How can we begin to let some of that fear go?

Once we are able to truly see the fear in all of its form, how it makes us feel, the discomfort and emotions that it causes, then we are able to start the process of breaking it down.

Here is what we can do in a few simple steps:

 Allow yourself to recognize the fear.

• Work to try to shift the mindset around how you actually perceive fear. When we attend to a different perspective, we actually can lessen the fear that exists.

• Choose how you want to engage with the fear. Look to the past and identify ways that you have actually conquered your fears and bring those images to the forefront of your mind. This can help to change your perception and engagement with the present fears by recalling your successes from the past.

• Controlling your thought patterns. We must remember that fear does not have to be in the driver seat. We have a choice. We can choose to put fear in the rear, or not in the car at all. Changing our mindset and relationship to fear is a process that takes attention and energy. It’s about shifting the way we think and see these things in our lives.

Perspective is a choice. When we begin to choose for ourselves, we realize we have more control over how we show up, react, and adjust then we might have thought otherwise.

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Written by Sue DeCaro


  • Sue DeCaro

    Heart-Centered Life and Parent Coach, Worldwide

    Sue is a heart-centered coach, educator, motivational speaker, and International Bestselling Author, working with individuals, corporations, and families around the globe to navigate life’s daily challenges.    While integrating education, consciousness, and coaching, Sue helps individuals to feel empowered, grow and thrive. Her passion is to help people deeply connect to themselves, to their children, and of course, to the world around them, creating a brighter future.   Sue also serves as a member of the Wellness Council for the Unionville-Chadds Ford School District, focused on researching and identifying best practices related to improving student health. She served as a Guest Parent Specialist/Coach for Mindvalley University Training and an esteemed member on the 24-hour virtual help desk support team for Mindvalley.com month-long summer event in Pula, Croatia, 2019.   Sue has had writings featured in various online publications and magazines. She has presented at events featuring Dr. Shefali Tsabary, Neale Donald Walsch, Marianne Williamson, Anita Moorjani, and John O’Sullivan. Sue has been an invited guest on radio shows and podcasts and has also appeared on Television, on The Dr. Nandi Show as well as a number of appearances on FOX 29, Good Day Philadelphia.