It’s important to surround yourself with good company. You should always have friends that support and encourage you. It’s also important that you choose people you look up to, since you subconsciously adopt the behaviors of those around you.

If you surround yourself with the wrong people, you’ll be unhappy and stressed. Sometimes, you may not even realize how toxic the people around you are until you take a step back and look. Certain toxic behaviors can harm you and the people you care about.

How to Identify Toxic Friends

There will be obvious (and some not-so-obvious) signs that your friend is toxic. Obvious signs include compulsive lying, physically harming you, and talking about you behind your bac. You also don’t want to surround yourself with poor influences. If someone brings you down, make you feel bad about yourself, or inspire bad habits, they are not good for you.

Friends that like to start drama and constantly talk about others are also toxic. They don’t focus on their own lives. Instead, they enjoy gossiping constantly about others. In addition to this being irritating, it is also likely they’re talking about you as well.

You don’t want anyone that brings negativity into your life on a regular basis. Everyone has bad days and needs someone to talk to. However, if all your friend does is complain, it may be wise to reconsider spending much time with them.

You should be happy and treated well by your companions. Try to think about which positive traits you think your friends should have. Surround yourself with those sorts of people. You also don’t want to be friends with someone that uses you.

Although you shouldn’t keep tabs on every transaction and who owes each other what. However, if you feel that all you do is give without reciprocation, it may be wise to reconsider that friendship.

Why Should You Ditch Them?

It’s important to ditch toxic people for your own well-being. Although there are exceptions to everything, people shouldn’t consistently treat you badly. If your friends aren’t people that make you happy, then they’re not right for you.

You may feel like you have to help people or feel bad when someone’s alone. However, you can’t save everybody on the planet. And you also can’t be friends with everyone. It’s much more important to take care of your mental health.

Just because you aren’t friends with someone doesn’t mean that you can’t remain civil with them. There are ways to keep distance yet remain civil with fake people. You can’t feel bad for getting rid of someone that hurt you, brings you down, and makes you feel less than happy.

How Can You Remove Toxic Friends?

Breakups are hard. It’s even harder to “break up” with a friend. It’s especially difficult if you have many memories with that person and/or have been friends with them for a long time. You may experience grief afterwards. But remember, it’s for the best.

First, decide when to end the toxic friendship with that person. Although it’s important to end it as soon as possible, you must do it the right way. It isn’t okay to hurt somebody else just because they hurt you. If the person has severely harmed you, it is best to distance yourself from them as much as possible.

If your friendship has been bad on the whole, it may be best to slowly distance yourself from them. You don’t want to create any drama. Without being harsh, try to gradually fade out of your friendship with them.

You should cut off the people that treat you poorly and make you feel bad. It’s important to identify which people are toxic in your life, recognize why it’s important to remove them from your life, and do it the proper way.


  • Alexis Schaffer

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    Alexis Schaffer received her undergraduate degree in psychology and is a registered nurse. In her free time she teaches yoga and writes for various online publications. She's also the proud dog mom of a beagle named Dobby.